About me
My Journey to Wholeness
I am 49 years old, I’m single and have no children. I worked in social work for 20 years, in more recent times as a manager, I worked remotely for 2 years because of covid restrictions, 8 hours a day in zoom meetings. In January 2022 after a full moon practice, where I ceremoniously burnt my fears in the fire, I got up the following morning and knew deep in my soul that ‘today’s the day!’ so without sharing this with ANYONE (very unlike the old version of me who would have analysed and questioned my decision until the old fear driven thinking would have taken over until I talked myself out of it!) I handed in my notice to my social work job. In fact, so concerned that the ‘old me’ may show up, I did it then and there on the way to the shower… in the nude, quite literally baring my soul and in my naked truth I followed my intuition and broke open my cage!
I had engaged with a life coach in the summer of 2021, I had delved deep into my knowing and worked hard on the shadows that had held me back, the life limiting beliefs that had kept me small and at last I felt truly connected to myself and what I was here to do! I had been interested in Life Coaching as a potential career path for about 8 years, but despite the inner knowing, hadn’t been able to show up enough for myself to take what seemed then a huge leap of faith. To turn my back on my career and to step into life as my truly authentic self, I just wasn’t ready… yet!!. So, I went on a journey of being coached myself to learn first-hand the power of the process and its transformational benefits. It was during my coaching journey that I connected with a vision of my future that felt so right. It had always been there, I knew that, but I had been afraid to step into this new world, new way of living. My narrative of self-limited beliefs were extensive and far reaching. But I was at last in a space where I was gently held and challenged to question these and to dare to dream of what might be possible if I became my biggest cheerleader! So, during a meditation visualisation, there I was in a caravan on a cliff top looking out to sea. The only problem with that was I didn’t own a caravan! Well, fast forward to January 2022, one week after handing in my notice, I was also the proud owner of a T@B 320 caravan! And the knowing that I was to embark on a solo trip around Europe for 3 months.
Alongside the planning of my trip, I continued my own study to become a qualified Holistic Life Coach and Mind Body Practitioner. To complement the qualification I already had of a Practical Magic Coach and Facilitator. The Diploma pushed me further into my own understanding, building conscious awareness of the mind body connection uncovering and challenging / re-writing more of my fears around being alone and where they had originated and where I had made important life decisions based on these limitations. The more I explored this the more I knew I had to make my trip and I had to do this by myself. I recognised a deep need in me to face head on the fear of being alone, at last the curiosity to see what was on the other side was greater than the fear itself.
I feel it’s important at this point to share, I have had breast cancer twice and had been married until we divorced in 2019, just before covid I had moved house and lived alone for the first time in my life. We had been together since we were 19 yrs old. Cancer treatment was the reason for me not being able to have children naturally, I had an early surgical menopause aged 30 (with no access to related information, support or HRT due to hormone receptive cancer) . I was at odds with myself, my imagined future identity as a mother and felt out of step with the vast majority of my family and friends as they gradually became parents themselves. I’m not sharing my story to vilify cancer, what I felt it had taken from me or the detail or quality of my relationship, but enough to know that my ex-husband and I both felt hurt and lost from what life had thrown at us at an early age. I hung on tight to what I knew and remained in the marriage far beyond what was healthy or happy for either of us. I was, you see ‘more scared of being alone, than I was of cancer’ I can’t recall just how many times I have repeated this narrative in my head, but it was certainly enough for me to have accepted this as ‘fact’ and place me into indecision purgatory with regards taking action that was out of love for myself. The result was a total loss of myself and a life which had become diminished, in which I was a shadow. Finding my light again has taken time, energy and love.
I returned last year from my three-month solo tour in Europe with my caravan. I’ve travelled 4,600 miles through France, Spain and Portugal and stayed in 34 different campsites. I have done the work on rediscovering my wholeness, so that I can help support other women on their journey to theirs.
I am passionate about personal growth, authenticity, fulfilment, expansion, and happiness, living unapologetically 100% true to self. I am energised around supporting women to get out of ‘indecision purgatory’ and move ahead towards living the life they choose! Those having experienced poor self-esteem, overwhelm and life fatigue. I am particularly motivated around the impact of the loss of perceived feminine roles / identities and the impact that this has on feelings of loss of self, disempowerment, stagnation and increase in stress and further disengagement with self and others. Whether this be through illness, childlessness, menopause or relationships ending. Particularly when these events have occurred outside what is ‘expected of the social norm’, i.e. young diagnosis or menopause as these further serve to isolate and disempower.
I now also hold a further diploma in Menopause Wellness and am actively using all of my own experience and training to work with women, who like me have faced an early menopause and aren't able to access HRT, and are feeling out of step and overwhelmed as a result. I know how difficult it is to find your community when your experiences are not supported by the mainstream press on menopause which focuses so greatly on HRT , not aligned with those around you and what is expected in terms of your age. Menopause is not just the preserve of 'mid-life'! I am cultivating that community, a place for your discussions to be safely held, supporting you to navigate towards an informed, liberated post menopause, making empowered decisions and reconnecting to your wholeness.
Professionalism and Experience
I am professionally qualified as a holistic life coach, mindbody practitioner, menopause wellness practitioner and Practical Magic coach & facilitator. I combine these trainings with the qualifications and skills developed as a social worker /manager for 20 years alongside my own life experiences. I have the tools and understanding to truly connect with you and support you towards your wholeness and beyond.
Mission that matters
My mission is to continue to work with women who feel lost, stuck or overwhelmed as a result of life events, whose own life limiting beliefs are keeping them trapped in a place of indecision, preventing them from connecting truly with themselves and their potential happiness. It is possible to make the changes that have a lasting meaningful impact for you and those around you. It fills me with joy to be able to support women on their own journey to wholeness.
Practical Magic Coach & Facilitator
